Do you feel like your life is a contact stream of giving. That everything flows in one direction (outwards) and very rarely comes back to you?
As women we orientate towards giving, connection and nurture. A beautiful trait that shows we care. However, if we get stuck here it leads to us becoming people pleasers. We feel obliged to give away our time, energy and resources simply because it’s what we think we should do.
Today, I’d love you to consider how you might be able to receive more.
More help, prosperity, opportunities, love, creativity, appreciation and attention. To explore the energy you need in your body to open and attract your deepest desires.
The energy of receiving is surrender and release
For many women, particularly women who are used to being in control, having their shit together, looking after everyone else, and driving things forward all the time, the idea of surrender and release can be scary!
Luckily, it’s not something that you have to do in one big chunk. You don’t have to let everything go and float around in a state of permanent meditative Zen!
Rather you can begin by contemplating the question, “what can I let go of right now that will give me more space? More space to breathe, more space to slow down, more space to relax and open my heart?”
This may require forgiveness – for yourself or someone else. Maybe there’s a situation or a person that you’ve been trying to control or manipulate and it always feels heavy and exhausting. What is that one thing that you can release with compassion in order to reclaim your power and your energy?
Another energy you can deepen to help you receive more, is the energy of trust.
Trust is a huge topic and everyone will have a different baseline depending on their past experiences. I understand it’s hard to trust you can receive, when you’ve experienced neglect or betrayal, or a time when you asked for help and your requests were ignored. These things are really big and often need unraveling at a more personal one-to-one level.
However, there are still certain things you can do to heal your relationship with trust and receiving.
Opening up to trusting that whatever happens you’ll know you’ll be okay
I invite you to think back to a really tough situation, when you thought nothing was going your way, that everything was unraveling.
I now invite you to consider the gifts that have since come from that situation.
🌹 What did you learn?
🌹 How did you evolve as a person?
🌹 Have you been able to help someone else going through a similar situation because of your own experience?
🌹 Who have you attracted in your life because of the way you’ve grown and evolved through your experience?
The thing about opening to trust is that you also need to open up to the fact that things seldom go as you envisage them, but the end results can often be exactly what you’re looking for. If you look for evidence of how this has shown up in your own life, you can begin to trust that “no matter what, I’m going to be okay”.
Another way to lean into your trust is to start trusting that you are worthy and deserving of receiving. Again this is a big piece to unravel, but you can start by becoming more aware of
What you attach to your worthiness to, or what kind of rules you’ve created around it.
For example – I’m only worthy to receive if I martyr myself. I’m only worthy of treating myself if I lose 2 stone. I’m only worthy of recognition when I finish this project. I’m only worthy or rest when the house is tidy.
Once you’re aware of these, you can start questioning them by connecting into your heart and asking the simple question that I touched on last week. “Can I be absolutely sure, without any shadow of a doubt that this is true?”
When you being to undo and unravel the rules and limits around your worthiness, you can start to contemplate the possibility that you’re worthy simply because you exist. That you deserve to receive without having to be, do, prove or earn anything.
When you’re in the energy of trust, surrender and release, you’re well and truly in the realm of the feminine and all the magic she offers you. You feminine energy is one of possibility, opening and receptivity. The more you can embody this, the more you will start attracting people, situations and opportunities that help create the life of pleasure, joy and abundance you so deserve.