Women's Rage and Grief
I can’t think of many other emotions that are suppressed quite as tightly women’s rage and grief. Twin flames of the same fire; both taboo and often misunderstood.
Today, I want to dive into the complex and intertwined dynamic between rage and grief. To question the patriarchal, capitalist scripts that taught us how to ‘deal’ with them, and explore another way.
Rage and grief are natural and valid emotions. They both serve as messengers indicating that something within you needs acknowledging and tending to.
They can also be powerful catalysts in your healing journey if you allow them space to be felt and understood.
However, your default response to them is often to shame and shut them down.
Interplay Between Rage and Grief
Rage – often seen as an intimidating force – is in fact a powerful energy that calls for your attention. It can be stirred up by societal pressures, unresolved traumas, loss, injustice and fluctuating hormones of midlife!
Often, underneath your rage is grief. A deep sense of loss and longing for what no longer is. However, this grief gets missed in the rush to suppress rage (and all its wisdom).
Grief on the other hand, is seen as a softer more tender emotion. Something that you’ve been taught to process quietly and quickly in the privacy. However, it’s also well documented that the grieving process includes rage!
This then leads you to label your grief as wrong because surely you ‘should’ be feeling sad not mad.
So, what do you do?!
Curiosity and Compassion
How would it feel to stop suppressing and shaming your rage and grief and instead offer them curiosity and compassion? To feel, explore and express (in a safe way) the underlying causes of these big emotions.
To give yourself FULL permission to rage and mourn, to process the pain, and gently release what no longer serves you. In whatever time frame you need.
Healing In The Body
As a Feminine Embodiment Coach and Rage Alchemist, I’m skilled at holding space for these emotions and have witnessed the power and wisdom that emerges in my clients when they’re supported to do so.
Through the process of embracing both rage and grief, I support women to embark on a profound healing journey that enables them to reclaim their authentic power, wisdom, and capacity to thrive amidst life’s challenges.
So, wherever you are in your midlife journey, know that you’re not alone in this complex interplay of emotions.
Know that your rage and grief can be held as sacred gifts that have the energy to guide you towards deeper self-discovery and self-love.
Trust in your ability to navigate these emotions so that you can emerge with more clarity, courage and wisdom for life’s next chapter.
If you feel ready to explore these emotions but desire the support and safety to do so, I am your woman!
As a Feminine Embodiment Coach, my role is to support people pleasing women to set fearless boundaries, stand up for themselves and make bold decisions that honour who they are by learning how to embrace and embody their sacred rage. You can explore more of my work here and reach me personally at sarahboothcoaching@gmail.com.
